What is a
high conflict divorce coach?

Navigating a divorce or attempting to co-parent with a truly high conflict individual (HCI) is not accomplished by using standard conflict resolution strategies. Your support team needs to understand the nature of the HCI in order to adequately prepare you for this specific challenge. As a certified high conflict divorce coach, I will be your concierge of information: A strategy partner, an ally in creating your personalized road map, and the emotional support you're going to need to make it through each area of your process. Managing an ex partner's hurtful tactics is difficult, and it’s easy to feel overwhelmed, confused, and alone in the face of such an onslaught. There is a separate strategy involved when navigating a HCI, and if you and/or your team is unaware, the consequences can be monumental and long lasting.

What is a high conflict individual (HCI)?

High conflict individuals have a pattern of high-conflict behavior that increases conflict rather than attempting to reduce or resolve it. This destructive pattern goes beyond someone "just being difficult." The issue is never the issue. The issue is the HCI's drive to control at all costs.

Typical behavior patterns of the HCI include:

blaming others / victim mentality
all-or-nothing thinking
lack of empathy / performative empathy
inability to self-regulate
manipulation
boundary violations
interpersonal exploitation for personal gain
contempt for others
need for dominance + control + power
entitlement / lack of accountability

you need a new strategy

Your ex is not the solution. You are.

Taking back your power is essential, and I can help.

Stephanie P.

"I was paralyzed with fear at the thought of preparing for court, prior to working with Nika. She transformed a seemingly impossible task into one where I felt empowered to engage in the process. She coached me through my emotional block, partnered with me to strategize a documentation plan, and stuck with me through completion. I am now feeling prepared and hopeful."

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Let's connect.

It starts with you. Let’s talk about what you’re dealing with and how I may be able to help you.

putting together an action plan and road map.
creating values-driven boundaries.
building a support team.
finding the right attorney, therapist, or private investigator.
reclaiming your voice.
preparing for court and/or evaluators.
creating a parenting plan.
preparing for mediation.
managing the day to day stress + implementing self-care.
knowing how to show up well for your kids.
understanding what the court cares about, and what it doesn't.
communication with an HCI. What to say, what not to say, and when to say it. Or not.
organizing your documentation for court.
accountability and support while rebuilding your life in a way that is true to YOU.

Click below to schedule a 20 minute Discovery Call. In addition to my 1:1 coaching packages, I offer fully customized road maps. This is not a one size fits all approach. Let's work together to create a plan based on your specific needs. Need weekly check-in calls? Need more frequent text support in between sessions for smaller things that pop up? Need help drafting communication? I've got you covered. *Note: The $20 Discovery Call fee will be applied as a credit toward your first package or one-on-one coaching session.

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What is a high conflict divorce coach?