High-conflict co-parenting
Are you or your partner navigating a high-conflict co-parent?
It's time for a new strategy if:
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the ex is continually driving conflict, adding challenges for your family.
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you need court approved strategies for responding to high conflict communication.
- you're unclear which behaviors should be documented, and how.
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the high conflict co-parent is continually making threats, and you're unsure what your options are.
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you need help understanding how to communicate your situation to your kids' teachers, coaches and doctors.
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you need research backed education on how to best help your kids thrive despite your co-parent's efforts to sabotage your relationship.
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you need help skillfully supporting your kids as they process the changes in their family.
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you and your partner are not seeing eye to eye on how to manage the conflict.
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you're feeling unsettled about how to engage what the ex tells the kids about you.
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you're feeling overwhelmed trying to support your partner as they navigate the endless landmines and bids for battle.
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your co-parent is slandering your name, and you're not sure when to speak up or stay quiet.
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you need help creating + enforcing values-driven boundaries to protect yourself and your family.
"Nika’s kindness, compassion, and honesty shine through in every interaction. She doesn’t shy away from telling it like it is, but always with empathy. Her ability to understand all sides of a situation comes not only from her personal experiences but also from her extensive qualifications. I often joke that I’m keeping her for the next 8 years, and I truly mean it. I feel I could write a book about how amazing Nika is! I’m incredibly grateful for the guidance and support she’s provided, and I’m a better person because of it."
-C.C.
Co-Parent Communication
How to respond to your high-conflict co-parent
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Are you immediately triggered when you see a message come in?
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Do you question which messages require a response, and which can be ignored?
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Do you feel obligated to respond to emotionally charged messages, fearing that if you don't you will be accused of not co-parenting?
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Does it seem like no matter how you respond, you're in for more conflict?
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Are you worried about how a court would view your messages?
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Do you feel stuck defending yourself against false allegations?
Yes? Then it's time for a communication Audit.
One of the most effective ways I support parents in high-conflict dynamics—and the very first step I recommend if you’re struggling to communicate—is through a communication audit.
In high-conflict co-parenting, communication is the one link you can’t escape. It’s how every decision gets made, and every detail gets managed. That’s why learning to manage it well is critical to protecting your peace.
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Here’s how it works:
The process starts with you sending me several months of communication between you and your co-parent. With that foundation, I analyze the full scope of your interactions and highlight the patterns that matter. Every pair of co-parents develops a ‘dance.’ I identify where you may be unintentionally adding to the conflict or reinforcing unhealthy cycles, then show you how to interrupt the pattern and create a healthier dynamic. Navigating communication in these situations doesn’t come intuitively; it’s a skill that requires guidance and practice. There's strategy involved too, and I'll guide you through every step.
I'll break down the motives and methods behind your co-parent’s high-conflict communication, and help you separate what the court considers important from what you don’t need to engage with. I'll teach you how to respond to their bids for conflict, and how to protect yourself from false accusations. I'll help you identify and communicate your values-based boundaries in a way that protects you and your household. The best part is, you’ll be empowered with tools to shift the dynamic, regardless of your co-parent’s willingness to participate.
​Ready to begin? Simply book a Discovery Call and mention ‘Communication Audit’ in the notes section.